The Healing Power of Saying "NO"
I have posted on this topic before, and speak on it often. In the early 1980's, I was beginning the first of the credential-gathering I deemed necessary in order to be accepted when speaking, teaching or otherwise sharing what I (and plenty of other folks aware of many forms of healing beyond western medicine's universe - such as ancient wisdom in indigenous healing, eastern healing, 'non traditional" and/or "spiritual" healing techniques), knew to be keys to healing many illnesses that western medicine deemed mysterious, unknowable, random and unfortunate. At that time, mainstream social awareness of "alternative" healing was just beginning to catch.
What I was seeing during my practicum working with many people day after day, was evidence adding up to a clarity for me about the inter-connectedness of body, emotion, mind, and spirit that had always made sense to me, but for which I had, until then, not had concrete evidence of. I spoke (albeit with some caution, for this was not an accepted reality at that time) to two of my alternative healing school cohort members, sharing what I was seeing on my table; that regularly - and now predictably - for me, people's emotional landscape was directly correlating with their physiological complaints. My findings after weeks of observation became so clear that when a person shared their emotional history, I could pretty much guess what their physical complaints would be.
When I shared this with my fellow practitioners, one blurted out "you MUST read Louise Hay's new book. . .", which I did. There, in her now classic, not particularly scientific (yet a gold mine for those of us who did not need convincing of her philosophies), book "You Can Heal Your Life" it was, line by line, validation for my own discoveries. Had I not noticed the patterns myself, I might, like so many people did at the time, have written Hay's book and findings off as new age blibber-blabber. But I was seeing the evidence every day, repeatedly. And, further, over time I also saw that conscious shifting of the harmful patterns brought levels of health and well-being that western medicine could not explain.
As mentioned, many, many healing philosophies have understood for eons what mainstream western medicine is just now barely ready to open to; that healing is a multi-tiered, dynamic process that includes involvement of all aspects of a human being, their interaction with other humans, and their interface with environment. This is a topic I could (and perhaps one day will) write volumes on; but for now, I want to introduce you to (or remind you of) a fabulous soul who is out there getting the wisdom where it has been most resisted: in the medical community.
Dr. Gabor Mate, of Vancouver, British Columbia, shares the important truth about healing with those who are engaged deeply in the culture of western medicine. This is particularly satisfying to me as the folks Dr. Mate teaches are the folks who speak directly to a general public trained to listen for the "OK" from western science. The word is getting out: HEALING IS A HOLISTIC VENTURE. . . and learning to say "NO" (in other words, allowing the deep self to have a strong, authentic - and honored - voice, regardless of what others need) may be at the core of so much more than we give it credit for.
Let me not ramble on any further; rather, I invite you ALL - practitioners, patients, people - to have a listen to this FABULOUS LECTURE by Dr. Gabor Mate. See if there are any bits for you or your loved ones in here; see if you find yourself in Mate's stories, or if listening allows you to find yourself a bit more deeply within your own self. . .
To Your Healing,
HERE YOU GO:
Rev. Maya Massar